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Wednesday, July 27, 2011 @ 5:00:00 AM - Written by Doug Hignell -

Because I am intrigued by what has kept others from being all that God created them to be I have been asking friends the question, "Why has it been difficult for you to fully live as God intended?" I have received some excellent responses and would like to share excerpts from my dear friend Roger, who has graciously given me permission to share his thoughts. Not surprisingly it includes many of the reasons I presented in my previous blog which I suspect are universal struggles. So, Roger's thoughts:

"As I have contemplated why and how I have not been "Roger" I've had several ideas. The short answer is sin, by which I mean anything which alienates or separates one from another and from God. And there are many.They come from my brokenness.

The most obvious answer to me is fear: "Will I be loved if I am myself?" If I am not myself then if I'm not loved it's the false Roger that is rejected, not the real me. I was raised in a shame-based family system with a father whose love was conditional upon memeeting his expectations. Also with fear I would list anxiety and insecurity. The shame I felt led me to arrogance, to trying to feel superior to or in control of others. It alienated and separated.

There are also false gods I pursued like money/security, fame/popularity/acceptance, power/control. All of these led me away from being my true self.

Living in denial and unwilling to face the reality of a situation has been a huge pattern in my life. Even an unbalanced focus on positive things like my gifts and talent has separated me from God and others. Retreating into my intellect, for example, to protect myself from being vulnerable, has caused me to be less myself.

The more I "live in Christ" the more Roger I become and that's because Christ replaces my false self, my ego, which I developed out of my brokenness to cope with the world into which I was born. Instead, following Jesus fuels that divine spark that dwells within me (1 Corinthians 3:16)?"

Thank you Roger for sharing some insight into your own life. Now, I would like to hear from you the answer to the question "Why has it been difficult for you to fully live as God intended?" You can respond on the web site, or email me at Doug@hignell.com.

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